Fear

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt.

 Fear is a primitive state that harks back to the time of our ancestors. At the time there were many real and present dangers around them. Their fear kept them safe. I believe we’ve carried this fear (real or imagined) in our genes.

“Being brave isn’t the absence of fear. Being brave is having that fear, but finding a way through it.” Bear Grylls.

When fear is appropriate it’s healthy to feel the fear, especially if we are in physical danger. It can protect us from harm. However in modern life fear serves no purpose.

“The fears we don’t face become our limits.” Robin Sharma.

 Ninety percent of what we worry about never happens, so why spend hundred percent of our time worrying about what only has a ten percent chance of happening? Most fear is based on illusion. How often do we fear something only to find it never happens? It’s our imagination over-reacting.

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” Les Brown.

I’m really struggling with fear at the moment. I think I’ve allowed this fear to take over. I used to think I needed to get this impediment out of the way in order to live the life I want to live. If I spend all my time waiting for fear to dissipate I will never move forward in my life. I would never take a chance, take a risk. This limits me. How can I grow? How can I become a better person if I don’t step into the unknown? The fear will always be there, so I feel that fear and do it anyway.

“Who sees all beings in his own self, and his own self in all beings, loses all fear.” Isa Upanishad, Hindu Scripture.

Blessings to all xx

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Looking forward and goal setting

Christmas is over and the new year is yet to come. At this time of the year I look back at the year that has just past. What have I done? My highs and lows. My successes and failures. What have I learned that I can carry forward into the new year?  I’ve looked back at the goals I set myself in 2019. I’m happy to report that I’ve achieved many of them. The rest I continue working towards.

I look forward to the year ahead. What do I want to achieve both personally and professionally? I set myself goals. I write them down. I keep them where I can be constantly reminded of them.

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.” Andrew Carnegie.

Professional goal

 

my certificate
My greatest achievement of 2019

In 2020 I will continue working in child care three days a week. This is to ensure I have a steady income while pursuing other goals. My studies are now complete. I’ve started working on my memoir. This is a side project I’ve set for myself. I’ve taken the first tentative steps towards working as a freelance writer. I must admit I feel hesitant about this. I have no experience. Will anyone give me work?  Am I good enough? It seems risky. I don’t want fear to prevent me from making my dream a reality. Once I establish myself and can make a steady income from writing I will transition out of child care altogether. I’m not a risk taker. I wouldn’t just drop my current job and hope for the best. I want to do this the sensible way.

 

“Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy goal or ideal.” Earl Nightingale.

Personal goals

I would love to meet someone special this coming year. I’ve been single for six years and it’s time for this to change. Being introverted and somewhat shy this isn’t the easiest thing to do. Over the past two years I’ve joined several MeetUp groups and have been to some events. I need to ramp this up. I want to meet as many new people as possible. It’s the only way I’m going to meet someone. I’ve got to push myself out of my comfort zone if I want to change my current situation.

I want to make new friends as well. I’m slow to warm to people so I’ve had very few friends over the years. It would be lovely to have a friend to hang out with. Go out to a movie, catch up for coffee and so on. Someone I can open up to and share my ups and downs with.

“You can do anything if you set goals. You just have to push yourself.” RJ Mitte.

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My health

As I get older I’m becoming more conscious of my weight and the affect it has on my health. I love going on long walks so that’s a good start. I need to pay more attention to what I eat. I’m an unconscious eater. I just eat whatever is around to prevent hunger. I’m not mindful of how I’m fueling my body. This needs to change.

“Everybody has their own Mount Everest to climb.” Seth Godin.

 

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May 2020 be your best year yet. Happy New Year to everyone.

Love and blessings xxx