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Ageing

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Say cheese!!!

 

This is an update on writing opportunities I’ve been working on recently. I’ve been unsuccessful in getting the internship I mentioned in an earlier post. However I can apply again in a few months time. The paper I wrote articles for is coming out today. I’m so excited to see my name in print. I feel like I’ve been waiting for ages. Here they are!

 

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“We don’t stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing.” George Bernard Shaw.

 

As the saying goes when one door closes another opens. I now have another opportunity opening up for me. I have applied to join a community volunteer program. I will be assigned to an aged care resident who would like someone to transcribe and write their memoir for them.

 

“The longer I live, the more beautiful life becomes.” Frank Lloyd Wright.

 

This is a wonderful program that’s beneficial to the resident as well as the volunteer.   Aged care facilities can be a lonely place for residents especially if they don’t have family or friends or visitations are infrequent.

 

“Every year should teach you something valuable; whether you get the lesson is up to you. Every year brings you closer to expressing your whole and healed self.” Oprah Winfrey.

 

Contact with a volunteer gives them something to look forward to. Friendships can form. Social interaction is vital for everyone, but more so for the aged and marginalized. In this case I get to indulge in my passion (writing) while the resident gets to tell their story.  I’m looking forward to this. One day I will be elderly and I hope I have people around me who love and care for me. Those who will take the time to visit me. Companionship is so important as we get older.

“You can’t help getting older, but you don’t have to get old.” George Burns.

 

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Companionship!

Blessings to all!

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Wisdom

A knowing that goes beyond our senses. Knowing something to be right, true and just within our soul. It isn’t tangible. We don’t need proof.

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” Marcel Proust.

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With age comes wisdom

Wisdom can be gained over years of life experience.  I expect a person older than myself to be wise. As in “the older I get the wiser I get.” This belief is simply due to them having lived longer than me and seen more of life than me. However I see wisdom in those much younger than myself.

“Seek the wisdom of the ages, but look at the world through the eyes of a child.” Ron Wild.

Wisdom is a virtue

Wisdom is considered one of the highest virtues of human beings. Wisdom can be a way of seeing. It comes from the Latin word, “sapientia.” The ability to think and act using understanding, common sense and insight.

 “Knowledge is knowing what to say. Wisdom is knowing when to say it.” Anonymous.

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Who? Me?

I recall being told after a lengthy discussion with someone I had just met, about a topic I no longer remember that I’m wise. I thought really? Me! Wise? I had and still don’t have any awareness of being wise. I believe that declaring oneself to be wise shows a lack of wisdom.

“A wise owl sat on an oak, the more he saw the less he spoke, the less he spoke the more he heard. Why aren’t we like the wise old bird?” Charles M. Schulz.

Blessings to all.

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What I’m up to now

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In 2018 I commenced my studies in Professional Writing and Editing while working full time in early childhood education. I decided at the end of 2018 to reduce my work hours so I could study full time. This has been one of the best decisions I’ve made in a long time.

I completed my studies and received my certificate at the end of 2019. I’m still working in childcare part time while I pursue a new career in writing. I received advice to find voluntary work so I can get experience. Get my foot in the door, so to speak. I’ve found two opportunities that I think will be great for me.

 

Great opportunities coming my way

 

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Firstly I’ve found a voluntary role writing for a local community newspaper. In fact all the writers and the editor are volunteers. I have decided to write two articles which the editor has approved. In the next week I will interview a few key people and then write up the stories. The deadline is coming up, but there is some flexibility on this if I find myself struggling for time. The newspaper will be published in mid-March. I’m looking forward to seeing my name in print.

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The sky is the limit

Secondly I’ve applied for a three month internship with a magazine that’s published quarterly. It starts in April – one day a week. I’m familiarizing myself with the publication and its content to give myself the best possible chance of being offered the role. This will give me insight into editing and publishing and most importantly practical experience, which is invaluable to me. I’ve got my fingers and toes crossed for this.

I’m amazed at how quickly I’ve found these stepping stones to my new career, but then I think I’ve worked hard to get to this point so I deserve it.

Blessings to all.

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I’m ready to start my new career!
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Australia Day

I pay homage to the indigenous peoples of this land. The first Australians. I respectfully acknowledge the traditional owners of the land I live on. The Boon Wurrung people of the Kulin Nation and pay respect to their Elders, past, present and emerging.

CULTURE TO BE RESPECTED

I am proud to say that the Aboriginal people of Australia are one of the oldest continuous cultures in the world. Estimates have been put that they have occupied this land anywhere from 40,000 to 60,000 years. I believe this is a culture that deserves respect.

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    WHERE WE CAME FROM

    It’s Australia Day on January 26th. It’s the day that the first Europeans landed in Australia in 1788. Great Britain had overcrowded prisons at the time and required somewhere to house their criminals. America was out of the question as they had gained independence from the motherland. So ships came on the sixth month journey to the other side of the world to settle this wide brown land.

    We are a democracy. We can vote and have a say in how our country is run. We have flora and fauna that is unique to Australia. We accept those who are different from us. We are a multicultural people with people coming from so many nations to make Australia their home. Following are lyrics to a well-known Australian song that tells the story of how we became the country we are today.

    I AM AUSTRALIAN

    I came from the dream-time
    From the dusty red-soil plains
    I am the ancient heart
    The keeper of the flame
    I stood upon the rocky shores
    I watched the tall ships come
    For forty thousand years I’ve been
    The first Australian.

    I came upon the prison ship
    Bowed down by iron chains
    I bought the land, endured the lash
    And waited for the rains
    I’m a settler, I’m a farmer’s wife
    On a dry and barren run
    A convict, then a free man
    I became Australian.

    I’m the daughter of a digger
    Who sought the mother lode.
    The girl became a woman
    On the long and dusty road.
    I’m a child of the Depression
    I saw the good times come
    I’m a bushie, I’m a battler
    I am Australian.

    We are one, but we are many
    And from all the lands on earth we come
    We’ll share a dream and sing with one voice
    “I am, you are, we are Australian.”

    I’m a teller of stories
    I’m a singer of songs
    I am Albert Namatjira
    And I paint the ghostly gums
    I’m Clancy on his horse
    I’m Ned Kelly on the run
    I’m the one who waltzed Matilda
    I am Australian.

    I’m the hot wind from the desert
    I’m the black soil of the plains
    I’m the mountains and the valleys
    I’m the drought and flooding rains
    I am the rock, I am the sky
    The rivers when they run
    The spirit of this great land
    I am Australian.

    We are one, but we are many
    And from all the lands on earth we come
    We’ll share a dream and sing with one voice
    “I am, you are, we are Australian.”

    We are one, but we are many
    And from all the lands on earth we come
    We’ll share a dream and sing with one voice
    “I am, you are, we are Australian”

    “I am, you are, we are Australian”

    Lyrics by Bruce Woodley and Dobe Newton.

BEING AUSTRALIAN

For me being Australian means being there for those who are doing it tough. We are a courageous nation and we have generosity of spirit. We are strong and resilient. The current bushfire emergency is a great example of how we come together to help each other out in the bad times. Despite personal risk to themselves our firefighters come to the aid of other Australians. We give what we can when we see our fellow Australians suffering.

We have a laidback nature. We don’t take life too seriously. We have a sense of humour that is unique to Australia. We can laugh at ourselves. Even the way we speak English is unique to this part of the world. Many a visitor is perplexed by our Australian slang.

Our true identity is indicative of all that is good in human beings. Thank you to my mother and father for coming to Australia and making a life for my siblings and I to enjoy. I’ve been given so many opportunities and I’m so grateful for this.

Instead of quotes this week I have added poems written by Australians about Australia. Enjoy!

WALTZING MATILDA

Words written in 1895 by Banjo Patterson.

Once a jolly swagman camped by a billabong
Under the shade of a coolibah tree,
He sang as he watched and waited ’til his billy boiled
You’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me.

Waltzing Matilda, Waltzing Matilda
You’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me
He sang as he watched and waited ’til his billy boiled,
you’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me.

Down came a jumbuck to drink at the billabong,
Up jumped the swagman and grabbed him with glee,
he sang as he shoved that jumbuck in his tucker bag,
you’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me.

Waltzing Matilda, Waltzing Matilda
you’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me
he sang as he shoved that jumbuck in his tucker bag,
You’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me.

Up rode the squatter, mounted on his thoroughbred,
Up rode the troopers, one, two, three,
With the jolly jumbuck you’ve got in your tucker bag?
You’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me.

Waltzing Matilda, Waltzing Matilda
You’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me.

With the jolly jumbuck you’ve got in your tucker bag?
You’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, you scoundrel with me.

Up jumped the swagman and sprang into the billabong,
You’ll never catch me alive, said he,
And his ghost may be heard as you pass by that billabong,
you’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me.

Waltzing Matilda, Waltzing Matilda
You’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me
his ghost may be heard as you pass by that billabong,
You’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me.
Oh, you’ll come a-Waltzing Matilda, with me.

MY COUNTRY

Dorothea MacKellar wrote this poem in 1908 while she was visiting England and missing her home country. The second stanza is possibly one of the most well- known and recited pieces of poetry in Australian history.

The love of field and coppice
Of green and shaded lanes,
Of ordered woods and gardens
Is running in your veins.
Strong love of grey-blue distance,
Brown streams and soft, dim skies
I know, but cannot share it,
My love is otherwise.

I love a sunburnt country,
A land of sweeping plains,
Of ragged mountain ranges,
Of droughts and flooding rains.
I love her far horizons,
I love her jewel-sea,
Her beauty and her terror
The wide brown land for me!

The stark white ring-barked forests,
All tragic to the moon,
The sapphire-misted mountains,
The hot gold hush of noon,
Green tangle of the brushes
Where lithe lianas coil,
And orchids deck the tree-tops,
And ferns the warm dark soil.

Core of my heart, my country!
Her pitiless blue sky,
When, sick at heart, around us
We see the cattle die
But then the grey clouds gather,
And we can bless again
The drumming of an army,
The steady soaking rain.

Core of my heart, my country!
Land of the rainbow gold,
For flood and fire and famine
She pays us back threefold.
Over the thirsty paddocks,
Watch, after many days,
The filmy veil of greenness
That thickens as we gaze …

An opal-hearted country,
A wilful, lavish land
All you who have not loved her,
You will not understand
though Earth holds many splendours,
Wherever I may die,
I know to what brown country
My homing thoughts will fly.

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Happy Australia Day to all my fellow Australians here and abroad. Blessings to all.
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Women’s choices

“I do not wish women to have power over men; but over themselves.” Mary Shelley.

 

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I was stuck for something to write for this week’s post. I saw the movie “Little Women” recently and it got me thinking about women’s lives. There was a time when women’s choices were limited.  If a single woman was working and decided to marry she had to give up her job. If she had any earnings or inheritance at the time of marrying she forfeited her right to call it hers. It, like her and any children she had became her husband’s property.

 

“I am not free while any woman is unfree, even if her shackles are very different from my own.” Audre Lorde.

Freedoms

Men have had the freedom to determine their own destiny for hundreds if not thousands of years. I don’t have any resentment towards them for this. However women have had fight for every freedom they have earned. The women who have come before me have paved the way not just for me but for future generations of women to come. I am eternally grateful for this, but there’s still so much more to be done. Not all women in this world have the right to determine their own futures. The struggle for them continues even in the 21st century.

 

“I am a woman with thoughts and questions and shit to say. I say if I’m beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story-I will.” Amy Schumer.

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It’s my choice

Women who are fortunate enough to have been educated will find the constraints placed upon them extremely frustrating. Women have had to work within these constraints to effect change. It started with the right to vote. The right to be educated. Even the right to decide what happens to their bodies. Self-determination shouldn’t just be a privilege afforded to one gender or any one group of people. It’s the prerogative of every member of the human race to determine their own destiny.

I hope I can inspire my nieces (the women of the future) not only with my words but my actions to be whoever they want to be. Live their lives in a loving, peaceful and compassionate way.

Love and blessings to all.

“I am a feminist. I’ve been female for a long time now. I’d be stupid not to be on my own side.” Maya Angelou.

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More about goal setting

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My first post for 2020. A new year and a new decade is upon us. There’s a feeling in the early days and weeks of a new year that anything is possible. We hope that our year will be filled with joy and happiness. With goals set we go about trying to achieve them. We set out with the best intentions. I’m going to lose weight, get fit, get a new job and so on. These goals are great. It’s good to set goals and have something to aspire to. They give us a reason to get up in the morning. Anything we can do to improve our lives in some way is a good thing.

I believe while setting our goals we should include others too. Reach out to help those in need. Why not add this to your list of goals? Ask someone how they are feeling. Ask how can I help?  It doesn’t need to be financial. At times all we need is someone to talk to. Let’s put ourselves in other peoples’ shoes and show empathy.

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Small steps

Trying to juggle many goals at once can be overwhelming. Tackle one at a time, then break that down into manageable baby steps. Do something each day towards achieving that goal. For example you may want to lose weight and start getting fitter and healthier. If you haven’t exercised for a while start with a fifteen minute walk and gradually increase this as you start to feel stronger and fitter. Don’t always follow the same route as this can get boring. Mix it up and try new locales.

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Have fun

What other physical activities do you enjoy doing? Perhaps join a gym or do yoga classes. I did Latin American dancing for many years. When I started doing them my weight dropped off quite easily and the great thing was I had a lot of fun doing it. Anything that gets you moving is important, but more importantly you need to enjoy what you are doing or you will soon lose interest and won’t stick to it. If you have a friend, partner or family member who can join you that’s a great motivation to get started and keep going.

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Don’t give up

Finding a new job is an arduous task and a job within itself. Some are lucky and find work quickly while others plod on through endless job applications, interviews, etc and never seem to get anywhere.  I know from my own experience that wanting to give up can sometimes feel like the easier option. When you don’t hear back from employers after sending applications and going to interviews you can start feeling disheartened. The only real advice I can give on this is to request feedback from employers. This can help iron out anything that you are doing that maybe sabotaging your chances of landing the job. Above all else persist, persist, persist. Don’t give up and you will soon find the job of your dreams.

Love and blessings to all.

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Looking forward and goal setting

Christmas is over and the new year is yet to come. At this time of the year I look back at the year that has just past. What have I done? My highs and lows. My successes and failures. What have I learned that I can carry forward into the new year?  I’ve looked back at the goals I set myself in 2019. I’m happy to report that I’ve achieved many of them. The rest I continue working towards.

I look forward to the year ahead. What do I want to achieve both personally and professionally? I set myself goals. I write them down. I keep them where I can be constantly reminded of them.

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.” Andrew Carnegie.

Professional goal

 

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My greatest achievement of 2019

In 2020 I will continue working in child care three days a week. This is to ensure I have a steady income while pursuing other goals. My studies are now complete. I’ve started working on my memoir. This is a side project I’ve set for myself. I’ve taken the first tentative steps towards working as a freelance writer. I must admit I feel hesitant about this. I have no experience. Will anyone give me work?  Am I good enough? It seems risky. I don’t want fear to prevent me from making my dream a reality. Once I establish myself and can make a steady income from writing I will transition out of child care altogether. I’m not a risk taker. I wouldn’t just drop my current job and hope for the best. I want to do this the sensible way.

 

“Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy goal or ideal.” Earl Nightingale.

Personal goals

I would love to meet someone special this coming year. I’ve been single for six years and it’s time for this to change. Being introverted and somewhat shy this isn’t the easiest thing to do. Over the past two years I’ve joined several MeetUp groups and have been to some events. I need to ramp this up. I want to meet as many new people as possible. It’s the only way I’m going to meet someone. I’ve got to push myself out of my comfort zone if I want to change my current situation.

I want to make new friends as well. I’m slow to warm to people so I’ve had very few friends over the years. It would be lovely to have a friend to hang out with. Go out to a movie, catch up for coffee and so on. Someone I can open up to and share my ups and downs with.

“You can do anything if you set goals. You just have to push yourself.” RJ Mitte.

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My health

As I get older I’m becoming more conscious of my weight and the affect it has on my health. I love going on long walks so that’s a good start. I need to pay more attention to what I eat. I’m an unconscious eater. I just eat whatever is around to prevent hunger. I’m not mindful of how I’m fueling my body. This needs to change.

“Everybody has their own Mount Everest to climb.” Seth Godin.

 

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May 2020 be your best year yet. Happy New Year to everyone.

Love and blessings xxx

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Reflections of Christmas

“Christmas gives us an opportunity to pause and reflect on the important things around us.” David Cameron.

 

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Ah well..it’s that time of the year again. I wonder where all the time has gone. So many Christmases come and go in the blink of an eye. For me this time of the year is special because it’s about being with those who mean the most to me.

“Peace on earth will come to stay, when we live Christmas every day. Helen Steiner Rice.

My childhood Christmas

The festive season of my childhood was about believing in a man in a red suit who made presents magically appear at the front door. Mum told me years later it was she who would place the presents at the door, ring the bell and quickly run around the side of the house to escape detection. I remember trying to catch “Santa” out but he was much too fast for me. Being brought up Catholic there was of course the religious significance of the season. Every Christmas Day morning my siblings and I would dress in our finest and go to mass. It was obligatory.

The Christmas tree went up on 1st December. I would assist with decorating it with bought ornaments as well as ones made by the children. As presents got wrapped they were placed under the tree with name tags on them. Mum loved Christmas then and she still does now. She would adorn the house with Christmas decorations. On Christmas Day after attending mass we came home and prepared for our visitors. The table would be set and look so festive. The house was filled with the smell of the turkey or chicken cooking in the oven, while salads were being made. A fresh fruit plate was prepared and placed in the fridge for after lunch.

“For Christmas is tradition time. Traditions that recall the precious memories down the years. The sameness of them all.” Helen Lowrie Marshall.

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The tree is so beautifully decorated.

The feast

The door bell rang numerous times as our guests arrived. They brought presents and more food for everyone to share. Soon the house was full of chatter and laughter as we sat down to the feast. It began with a bowl of ravioli pasta covered in a delicious rich red tomato sauce. After we polished this off out came the turkey or chicken and the salads. Dessert was usually something light like a plate of freshly cut fruit for the adults and ice cream for the children.

 

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“Seeing is believing, but sometimes the most real things in the world are the things we can’t see.” The Polar Express.

 

Coffee anyone?

The men would move into the lounge room in a food coma while the women cleared away the table. Several Moka pots were brought out to make coffee. A Moka pot is an Italian style stove-top or electric coffee maker that brews coffee by passing boiling water pressurized by steam through ground coffee. A staple of the Italian household. If you didn’t have at least one of these in every size you just weren’t Italian. The smell of brewing coffee is something I will always associate with growing up. When I smell it now I’m reminded of my childhood. I loved the smell of it, but I wasn’t allowed to drink it till I was well into my teens.

 

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Coffee anyone?

 

“Christmas isn’t just a day, it’s a frame of mind.” Valentine Davies

Passage of time

This was a time for the adults to chat about adult things while the children played with their new toys. It was a joyful and carefree time. Now time has passed. I’m an adult as are my siblings. It is now our turn to pass on the traditions of yesteryear to the next generation. What’s most important is the giving and receiving. I’m so blessed to have my family to share Christmas with. I am mindful that not all people are as lucky as I am. There are those out there who are alone at this time of the year. Those who may be feeling sad. I remember them in my prayers.

I wish you all peace, love and joy at this time no matter what your beliefs may be. May it be a joyous and blessed time.

Love to all.

“Christmas is the day that holds all time together.” Alexander Smith.

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Spirituality

 

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Love is at the heart of everything

“When you arise in the morning think of what a privilege it is to be alive, to think, to enjoy, to love.” Marcus Aurelius.

What is spirituality?

An individual practice which gives a sense of peace and purpose. The state of being concerned with the human spirit or soul. A broad concept which can take many forms. Our deepest values. It can be a belief in the supernatural i.e. communicating with those who have crossed over, personal growth, yoga, meditation, creative expression, spending time in nature and affirmations. The list is as long as the amount of people who exist.

“The spiritual life does not remove us from the world but leads us deeper into it.” Henri J.M. Nouwen.

When I say I’m spiritual what do I mean?

I measure my spirituality in three ways. Firstly that there’s more to life than meets the eye. It’s not just what I can see, hear, touch, taste and smell. I look beyond the physical. It’s the intangible. Something that can’t be measured. Secondly I believe I am a spiritual being first and a human being second. I look within to my mental and emotional state in the hope of gaining a better self-awareness. Lastly I live by my values of love, kindness, compassion and being empathetic as best as I can.

There are infinite ways to practice spirituality, so there’s really no definitive way of explaining what it is. We require spirituality in our lives, but there’s no way to categorise it. You can’t put it in a box. As long as you are being true to yourself and living life according to your values then you are being spiritual. If you are being good to others as well as to yourself you are being spiritual. If you say a good word to someone or do a good deed for someone, then you are being spiritual.

“I close my eyes in order to see.” Paul Gaugin.

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Virtues

Patience is a virtue I struggle with. I can go through periods of time when nothing seems to be happening in my life. Things are stagnant. I call it being in a rut. While work and my professional life overall is moving along at a fairly good pace, my love life for example has come to a standstill. I must admit I could do a lot more to move this along. I believe that “behind the scenes” the universe is preparing me for the next chapter. The reason nothing may be happening is because I’m not in the right place in my life right now. I’m waiting on opportunities to present themselves. I must practice the virtues of both patience and faith till the time is right.

“Quite the mind and the soul will speak.” Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati.

How can I be more spiritual?

I can help others. If I see something is not right with the world. An injustice is being done to an individual or a group of people it is my obligation as a spiritual and human being to do something, say something. I believe we are all here on earth to help each other in our own unique ways. I need to listen to my feelings, always be truthful and have values I want to live by such as integrity, love, compassion and empathy. Be open to new experiences and laugh often. There’s no single way to be spiritual. It’s a personal thing. Whatever feels right for you.

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” Socrates.

 

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Love and blessings to all.

 

 

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Being an introvert in an extroverted world

Being an introvert

 

“I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.”  Henry David Thoreau.

 

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I totally resonate with this. Particularly the last line.  🙂

 

The saying “still waters run deep” describes me perfectly. Outwardly I am quiet and shy and yet I am deeply introspective. I am very self-aware which can be both a positive and a negative. A positive in that I know who I am and what I want. A negative as I become my own punching bag when things are not going right. Others will describe me as patient, committed and loyal. I’m a traditionalist with a strong belief in following the rules. I’m conventional and don’t believe in rocking the boat. I have a strong need to have close relationships, but I’m not easy to get to know. It’s like trying to get blood out of a stone.  🙂   I self-sacrifice and sometimes (who am I kidding!) most times don’t voice my own needs.

Dreamer

“Nothing can dim the light that shines from within.” Maya Angelou.

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Time for me

The world is a boring place in contrast to what’s going on in my head. I reach for the stars and feel let down when reality doesn’t match fantasy. I search for deeper meaning in my life. This has led me to explore spirituality. There’s more to life and I want to find out what it is. It’s a never ending quest. If I’m not using my imagination I will only put part of myself into anything I do.

Choosing words wisely

Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.” Plato.

 

I feel drained after being around people. I need to spend time alone to regain my energy. One interesting fact I found about the brains of introverts and extroverts. They respond to dopamine differently.  Just thought I would throw that one in.  🙂

I believe I’m a good listener due to being an introvert. I process information internally. I think before I speak. I only speak when I have something to say. I detest chit chat. Small talk drives me crazy, yet I know I need to engage in it if I’m to get to what I really want to talk about. I choose my words wisely in person and online. I don’t just put stuff up randomly. It’s well thought out and considered. Although I don’t think so, people say I have quite a sense of humour.

“People empty me. I have to get away to refill.” Charles Bukowski.

How I feel about being an introvert

“Everyone shines given the right lighting.” Susan Cain.

I’m pretty picky about who I let into my life. If I let you in, that means a lot. I like to get to know someone before sharing intimate details with them. This applies to a potential new romantic partner as much as it does to friendships. I’ve often felt that being an extrovert would be so much easier. It’s a constant struggle being an introvert. When I was growing up I thought something was wrong with me. This wasn’t helped by what happened to me at pre-school.

My mother has told me that my teacher suggested to her that I get tested. My mother being young and inexperienced (as a mother) at the time took me to a psychologist who did tests on me. It was concluded that I was perfectly normal and fine in every way. Any wonder I developed a sense of being misunderstood. Extroverts who get their stimulation from being around people don’t get the need to be alone, but then again I don’t get the need to be around people ALL the time, so I guess it’s a mutual misunderstanding. 🙂

“I wish, as well as everybody else, to be perfectly happy; but like everybody else, it must be in my own way.” Jane Austen.

 

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This is for you. Have a wonderful weekend no matter where you are.

Love and blessings to all.